Being a new parent is hard, especially if you are a first-time parent. The early days of parenting comes with a lot of difficulties and challenges; no matter how ready you may think you are with the best baby bottles and all. New parents can be completely overwhelmed with their new baby, both by joy and by the exhaustion that parenting can bring. When it comes to how to ask for help with your new baby, it’s best to know what’s what.
Asking for help with your new baby is not a crime. In fact, it can help you grow as a parent and most especially, it can allow you to catch your breath whenever taking care of the baby gets a little too much. So don’t feel guilty about asking the people around you for help. Otherwise, it can cost you both your health and your sanity. Yikes!
In this article, I’m going to give you tips on how to ask for help with your new baby. Hopefully, these will help alleviate the emotional, physical, and psychological burden that you may feel while taking care of a newborn.
Both parents need to put in work
Parenting is hard especially if you are doing it all by yourself. Well, if there are two partners in the equation, taking care of a newborn doesn’t have to be so difficult. Both partners need to put in work in order to make parenting easier. Whether you are the mother or father, you need to share the burdens of being a parent with your partner.
Thus, it would you really help you if you establish a working schedule. If one parent is working during the day, maybe he/she could take over the baby after getting home to allow the other to rest. Remember that taking care of a newborn and maintaining the house in order is a full-time job, so don’t put all the load on the parent staying at home.
It’s also best if you take turns taking care of the baby when both of you are home. In this way, one could get some sleep or do other necessary things while the other is on task of taking care of your baby.
All it takes is proper communication, delegation of tasks, and cooperation. When both parents are hands-on with the baby, then the workload will be much lighter for the both of you.
Ask for help from family and friends
Sometimes, taking care of a newborn can be quite overwhelming even if both parents are doing their best. It’s much more difficult for a single parent who has to take matters into his/her own hands. In cases where you and your partner cannot handle the pressure anymore, it is best to outsource for help.
This is where your family and friends play an important role. Your family will be excited for your new baby, and most grandparents/aunts and uncles will be more than willing to babysit for a few hours or a few days. After all, they are probably more experienced than you when it comes to parenting since they’ve already crossed that bridge. Moreover, maybe they can teach you a thing or two about parenting like how to wash your newborn baby.
When you have an important matter to attend to or simply cannot keep your eyes open for much longer, ask your own mom or dad to take over for you. Having your mom and dad come over to babysit will also improve your relationship with them, as it will improve their relationship with your baby.
However, keep in mind that you are only asking for temporary help. If a parent is consistently looking over your shoulder, then politely ask them to stop. You aren’t going to learn how to parent for yourself if you have someone telling you what to do at all times. Take the time to set a boundary that your parents cannot cross when it comes to parenting your child.
On the other hand, you can also ask trusted friends to lend you a hand. If they are parents themselves, that would be better.
Remember that asking for help doesn’t mean you are defeated. Not all parents can handle the load themselves, and if you have loved ones to help you, then why not ask for it?
Hire professional help
If you are a working parent or simply have too much on your plate, you have the option of hiring professional help. Professional help can come in the form of a temporary maid or nanny, but keep in mind that this will cost you more than just having a friend over. If you don’t have anyone else to call on your family and friends list, having pros come over can be a great help.
The first thing that you have to do is look for a reliable maid/nanny service. It’s best if you sought out for a service that has already been used by your friends or co-workers, so you would know that they are good. On the other hand, a nanny can be your neighbor or co-worker that you trust, but you have to pay to take care of your baby.
Secondly, know what you need help with. Do you need help with the baby or the house chores? You need to determine this before hiring someone so you can tell them what they would be expected to do.
When you have someone hired, you should set down a list of rules and chores (but don’t be too uptight about it). Make sure they have what they need to do their job, and on the first days, you should keep an eye on them to make sure they’re doing it right, if you can. After you’ve established a good relationship with the professional helper, you can go to your job or run errands more freely.
Ask for help from other professionals
Most people keep on forgetting that it’s not only the newborn that’s important during this phase, but the parents are in a crucial spot as well especially the mother. Post-partum depression is a common thing which would not only affect the mother, but the baby as well. If you are feeling inexplicably down or moody, you should seek help of a doctor or psychiatrist.
Breastfeeding is also an important factor in motherhood, and it can also be affected by several factors. If you have sudden changes in your breastfeeding pattern, seek the help of a nutritionist or doctor. Moreover, a nutritionist-dietitian can also help you regain your normal weight and BMI after the birth, which can help you settle back into the rhythm of life.
Another professional that can help you is a parenting instructor. You and your partner can take a parenting class in your spare time to truly grasp what it takes to be a parent. Having parenting classes can also help you master the art of taking care of a new born much quicker than having to learn it by yourself (skills like how to warm up milk for baby). More so, it can help you bond with your partner and baby.
The point is: seek professional help whenever you feel the need for it. In this stage, you should put the health of both you and your baby above anything else.
The newborn stage is a particularly grueling part of a parent’s life. In this stage, you have to set the rhythm with your baby and learn the basics on how to take care of him—from changing diapers to using a breast pump. What you want is the best for your baby, and sometimes, asking for help is the best way to achieve this.
So ask help from your partner, your friends, your colleagues, your neighbors, and professionals. Asking others for help with your newborn baby is not something to be ashamed of. In fact, it means that you know what you have to do in order to be the best parent possible for you baby, which is what’s more important.
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