Weekend Debauchery
People tell me to go on dates, to make time away from the baby, to get sitters and all that. I sort of just tune out when those conversations present themselves. I don’t like leaving Squid. I don’t have an overwhelming desire to be away from him, to have someone watch him even for just an evening. (I don’t trust anyone that much!) And I don’t necessarily agree when people tell me I have to have private time with my husband or I just have to make special date nights “happen.” I see my husband every single night and am alone with him from 8:00 to midnight every day. What more time do I need?!?
That being said, Jason played a gig at GAMH this weekend and really wanted me to be there. I really wanted me to be there. So, what was I to do but wrangle a sitter (i.e. my mother) to hold the fort down.
We left at 8:30 and came home at 2:30. No sitter? No time away from the baby? No going out? No dates? Fuck that. I’ve opened Pandora’s box. Saturday night we went out again (this time Jason’s mom sat) and we’re headed to a hotel in the South Bay this weekend after we drop off the kids at my grandmother’s house along the way.
Okay, so I’m still terrified to leave Squid, still spend the few days prior biting my nails and at least one full hour that night thinking about him, but if I didn’t, I’d probably start to seriously question my success as a parent. I don’t ever want to get too good at leaving my baby. But is it nice? Hell yeah, it is.
July 3rd, 2007 11:10
I totally feel you- it’s so hard to leave them sometimes! Just be glad you have baby sitters on hand- I sure wish we did!
July 3rd, 2007 11:34
Amen, sista!
Every now and then its does feel good doesn’t it.
So glad you had a good time and are heading out of town to fornicate like animals I mean enjoy a nice vacation.
Its ok to call home several thousand times to check on Squid while you’re out or away . So there, now you have all bases covered :)
July 6th, 2007 23:37
Ha! I guess that makes me bad–I fantasize about calling from Vegas when I leave the house–Oh, did I say I’d be back tonight? ;)
July 8th, 2007 12:35
Wait until you get to the point where the kids are asking you why you never leave them!
My mom lives a couple minutes away and I have my husband drop them off on the very rare evenings we’ll trick her into keeping them overnight because I tell them I will miss them so much I can’t stand to be the one to leave them at grandma’s…but in the meantime, I’m home, hopping up and down and screaming happily…
This is a clue to the fact that we don’t do date nights too often…
July 11th, 2007 07:55
good for ya’ll! I’ve still got a good 6 months until we can leave the baby anyplace. :( date rock my world!